Meaning is use.
Many conflicts persist because people use the same words
while following different rules.
M-U-T-U-A-L exists to turn vague agreement or disagreement
into a shared, observable act.
How this site is used
- Sit with another person. This is not a solo exercise.
- Choose one sentence you both care about.
- Identify the one word most likely to hide disagreement.
- Agree on what kind of activity you are doing.
- Define a test you will both run.
The goal is not consensus.
The goal is coordinated action.
What “the test” means here
A test is not discussion, intention, or interpretation.
It is an agreed procedure with observable outcomes.
1. Duration
A fixed time window.
Example: one week, three meetings, ten attempts.
2. Action
What each person will actually do.
No inner states. No assumptions.
3. Success rule
What must happen to count as “yes”.
Numbers or clear thresholds preferred.
4. Failure rule
What counts as “no” and triggers revision.
If a third person cannot run the test without asking for clarification,
the test is not complete.